Before You Tie The Knot series

Victor W. Harris and Ginny Hinton

Lisa M. Leslie and Victor W. Harris

The inventor, statesman, and scholar Benjamin Franklin provided some wise advice to all those thinking about tying the knot. “Keep your eyes wide open before marriage,” he said, “[and] half shut afterwards.” Marriage is a partnership that has emotional, financial, and legal implications. Before entering into this union, it is important for you and your partner to have your “eyes wide open” as you examine your individual attitudes and behaviors about both social and financial issues.

LuAnn Duncan and Victor W. Harris

This document explores the importance of recognizing healthy relationship patterns and red flags before marriage. It introduces Dr. John Van Epp’s model, which outlines five key steps: knowing, trusting, relying, committing, and physical intimacy. The article emphasizes the need for these steps to progress sequentially to ensure a strong foundation. Additionally, it provides a checklist of 25 red flags to help individuals identify potential issues in their relationships. The goal is to help readers make informed decisions about their partners and build healthy, lasting relationships. Original publication date August 2012.

Kate Fogarty, Millie Ferrer, andSara McCrea
Other Contacts: Victor W. Harris

Congratulations, you have decided to embark on a life change and challenge—blending families!